Dating etiquette for women over 40

Do not expect the man to continue to pay for nice dinners and evenings out, even though some men will still pay.

Here is some advice as your dating relationship gets more serious: The most important piece of dating etiquette for a woman is to be respectful of the man you are dating.

Dating coaches take a more positive stance on dating after 60.

They explain that a change in mindset is essential for women over 60 who want to find romance.

"I want women to feel they're desirable and hot," says Paula, who is 51 but looks younger.

"It's all about giving hope to women who feel they're on the scrap heap." With this in mind, one-to-one sessions are set up in the tea rooms of the capital's top hotels.

In a recent Woman's Hour programme on first date etiquette, spaghetti, oysters and lobster were just some of the foods described as deal breakers.

Yet the Radio 4 programme made no reference to the thousands of people for whom dates are like needles in haystacks.

Not only are there statistically fewer men, but the dynamic of human engagement, and style of personal connection, has changed dramatically since we were dating in our 20’s.

Also, a lifetime of love and loss has made many women distrustful and unwilling to get back into the dating game.

So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.

Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.